Hair Affairs

No more updating here

2007-05-07T20:23:00.000Z

Just to let everyone know. I have a new blog, which is closely linked to my new project. Hair Affairs e-Mag.

I will no longer be updating here, but you can find me at http://www.hairaffairs.blogspot.com
come over and check me out.

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Adornment 2007 - Visitor Feedback

2007-04-21T01:08:00.000Z

I found out about Adornment through M. D., who had volunteered to take part in the fashion show. I attended Adornment on Monday 9 April. Majority of my time was sat down watching and enjoying the show as I did not want to miss any of the fabulous clothes, hair styles and dance routines.

I felt the designers had such style, flair and a real passion for vibrant colours which was a pleasure to watch as it was nice to get away from the usual dull colours. I thought the drummers at the end of show were fantastic and really lifted the energy of the place!

All the best with the newsletter!

Many thanks

Emma

Adornment 2007 was the first time I visited the show, and I attended on Monday. I did not find out about it through advertisements - which was quite surprising, as my personal opinion is advertising draw crowds. I found out via word of mouth, as in the past as well.

I found the event particularly refreshing! Unfortunately I did not get to view all the stalls, as I found myself hooked to the fashions shows. It was good to see that the models used were not stereotypical, if that had of been the case that would have been very disappointing. The array of vibrant colours and designs were stunning, and it's good to know that black people have the potential to break into the designer world.

Davina

"I found out about Adornment through a friend of mine, M. D., who was going to be one of the models in the show. I must admit I had never heard of Adornment before, so this was the first time I had attended such an event in the UK. I bought a ticket for the Monday event, and arrived about 12 o'clock. I was very impressed by all the different designers, and businesses that were exhibiting at the show, many of whom were extremely talented, but yet I had never before heard of some of them.

The fashion shows were amazing as were the clothes and the models who showed them. It was a very warm and uplifting event, and it was so nice to see all the beautiful black people in there, all ages, all sizes, all 59 different shades of black, but together in a common cause, and embracing what we have to offer. Wow!! It just showed what amazing things we can achieve, as a people, when we set our minds to it and strive for a good cause. Loved it, loved it, loved!! Bring on Adornment 2008, I am there already!!"

Take care, stay blessed.

One Love

Antoinette X

Adornment 2007 - Model Feedback

2007-04-21T01:04:00.000Z

This is what other models had to say.

I initially came to Adornment in a supportive role, and to generally see what goes on behind the scenes. I had no real intention of getting involved, although I had been asked to take part as they only had a few male models.

I was quite hesitant as I was the only guy present at that time. However, as the evening drew on, more guys turned up and I felt that perhaps this would be fun and signed up.

I was picked to do a couple of dance routines and to model tee shirts and jewellery.

I found the rehearsals quite confusing and chaotic at times. This was mainly due to the sheer volume of people milling around. Some models in one corner rehearsing the catwalk, others trying to learn dance steps. It certainly was a hive of activity.

The days were long and after participating in 4 rehearsals, I still could not see how it would all come together over the 2 days. However, I felt proud to be a part of the individuals taking part in this unique show.

When the first day finally arrived, I was overwhelmed with excitement. At the same time, I was quite anxious at the thought of having to partake in front of live audience.

Then it happened. Time to go, adrenalin flowing through my body propelling me onto that stage. I was one of the opening dancers, I remembered all my routines, it went well and I really enjoyed it. Once over, I felt eager to get back out on stage to perform.

Two things I have gained from this experience. One is some great new friend-ships. The other is experiencing that when "black" people work together as a team they can achieve such greatness. We need to continue to show this harmony, not only in a weekend exhibition but also within our society.

Francis

I found out about Adornment through an email from a friend stating they were looking for natural hair models.

At rehearsals some of us were a bit reserved at first, but everyone soon came out of their shell under the guidance of Janee (a professional model) and we were soon sashaying and posing away.

The event itself was extremely tiring with early morning starts, but I had an excellent time. As a hair model for TarBaby, the style was based on a rock theme and I think I got really into character. As soon as I got on stage, I became such a different person that people were commenting on my change of character!

On the second day, I was enthralled by the Dutch drumming group who reminded me of being in Barbados. A few of the models were certainly moving their waistline!
It was unfortunate I could not see all the performances and did not have enough time to wander around the exhibition area. However, I met some really wonderful people and hope we keep in contact throughout the coming years.

As stressful and tiring as it was, I would do it all again.

Blessings, Michelle Doyle

Homegrown talent at Adornment

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Some UK talent visiting Adornment. Sisterlocked and Brotherlocked!

The Adornment Ambassador

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Ms Erykah Badu

Adornment 2007 coming to an end!

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Day 2 was just as awe inspiring and exciting as day one. Only difference was, I was so very tired. The life of a model is certainly not as glamorous as I had once imagined. I now know what Tyra's girls have got to go through!

Adornment Ambassador 2007 was Ms Erykah Badu. I was disappointed I did not get to meet her personally. I did however, manage to get a few photos, although some are a little blurred.

Sit back and enjoy the rest of the show. The three ladies by the Ashanti Hair Studio are all sisterlocks wearers, two of whom are consultants and were exhibiting as Ashanti Hair Studio.

Adornment 2007 continued........

2007-04-21T00:15:00.000Z

Lets not forget the men that also modelled at Adornment. They certainly had to work hard. The jewellery desinger, Ehwunah's show, consisted of the men carrying Queen Nzinga on their shoulders. They did very well. Check them out.

Adornment 2007 continued........

2007-04-21T00:00:00.000Z

It was a long day with lots going on. There were plenty of exhibitors, all with their wares carefully displayed. You could have your hair locked, buy african inspired jewellery, clothes, books, buy hair products, the list is endless.

There were also some workshops being held, but I was unable to attend any.

Lisa Price of Carol's Daughter was the featured entrepreneur, facilitating a workshop. I purchased her book "Success Never Smelled So Sweet", which she dutifully signed for me.

Sit back and enjoy some of my photos of the models.

Adornment 2007 - my experience

2007-04-20T23:51:00.000Z

The day has arrived. All models rearing to go and do their stuff. I arrive at Battersea Park early in the morning, final rehearsals are taking place. The show is due to start at 2pm on Easter Sunday.

Wow, the adrenalin is now really pumping through my body, this is real. The perspex stage looks impressive. Wow, I really have to do this. Well I hope that I can, and that my nerves do not get the better of me.

Exhibitors are setting up in the main arena, lots going on around us. It is amazing how time really passes quickly when faced with a situation like this. One moment it was morning and then it was 2pm.

I was modelling for a designer called Emebet. Her clothes are all hand made, knitted. check out the photos. Emebet is in the top right hand corner. It was her first fashion show, so she was just as excited and nervous as we were.

I must say that when the moment came to go out on stage and do my thing, I quite enjoyed it.

Sadly my modelling debut was only to last about 5 minutes as the routine was quite short.

However, once back in the safety of "back stage", I was eager to do it all again!

Dance routine, designers, hair appointments

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As the weeks went by, the models confidence kept growing and growing. Dance routines were coming together. The choreographers worked extremley hard, and it showed.

The designers picked their models for their catwalk shows. Most days the Artspace in Brixton was a hive of activity. Some models in one corner practising the catwalk, others in another perfecting their dance moves.

The days were long, especially after a long week at work, and the pace was fast, there was a lot to accomplish in such a short time.

The month of rehearsals was over in a flash and it was now time for the models to have their locks styled. Appointments at salons were booked for Good Friday, the show was a day away.

Busy March........

2007-04-20T22:17:00.000Z

Towards the end of February I was sent an email flyer, which asked for natural hair wearers to model for Adornment, an African Inspired Exhibition, to be held over 2 days during the Easter Bank Holiday.

Being an avid America's Next Top Model viewer, I took up the opportunity to strut my stuff on the catwalk.

I had to audition and really did not know what I was getting myself into!

I attended the audition and I nervously struttedmy stuff on a makeshift catwalk. I was told I would hear in due course. Well move over Miss Jay, I got through and was excited to see where this was heading.

Rehearsals were to be held approximately every Friday for a month, in Brixton! a 45 minute tube train journey from my side of London, but hey, models have to travel far and wide, I guess.

There were a lot of people at the rehearsals, more women than men, as always.

We were shown how to catwalk. Shoulders back, hips forward, right leg forward and ready to set off. Very uncomfortable posture, but apparently very necessary! So we set off, waddling like ducklings round and round the dance studio. 1,2,3,4,5,6,7,8 and pose, and pose and pose. Well arms flaying in every direction, legs giving way, some really un lady like poses!

Although people had volunteered to model, about 50% were extremely shy. We had to do our walk individually and some went so fast, you could barely see them move!

I must admit, I was probably in that 50% who were extremely shy. Was not sure how I was going to manage to model to a crowd over 2 days! However, I persevered and felt that I had now taken on this challenge and although I was way outside of my comfort zone, I was determined to see it through.

Surprisingly as the weeks went by, so the confidence of the models grew. Friendships were being carved out and a small village was being created. So many different people, so many different personalities.

Locks were everywhere. However, I was the only sisterlocked sister in the house, until, I spotted her a newbie! 3 day old sisterlocks! It took me back to the time when my locks were first installed. She had so many questions and I felt privileged to answer them.

Sorry, no photos of the rehearsals, as it is difficult to get them when you are supposed to be walking and posing!

In Celebration of My Sisters Concert

2007-04-20T22:11:00.000Z

Well some of you may well have recognised Eric Jerome Dickey - "one of the hottest African American writers" on the front of my emag.

Well I had the pleasure of meeting with him when I worked at the In Celebration of My Sisters concert in March. I bought one of his books, which he signed for me and obliged me in a photograph. Check out his locks!

The concert is held during International Women's Month in London and is a collection of music, comedy and inspirational acts.

I was working with the Pampering Club and as always had a thoroughly enjoyable time. Followed by an after party, where I mingled until the early hours.

Hair Affairs eMag

2007-04-20T22:07:00.000Z

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Where have I been, what have I been up to?

2007-04-20T20:38:00.000Z

Well I have been really busy since my last post.

I guess I need to start at the beginning with my updates.

After completing my Sisterlocks training in Miami in November 2006, I knew that I would need to be advertising my services. After attending a Pampering Club gathering in December and finding out about One Million Inspired Women through our guest speaker, I pledged my action and proceeded to highlight my new business venture.

In January 2007 I decided to embark on a PR exercise. I came across an email campaign company and my Newsletter, Hair Story was born.

The Newsletters main aim is to provide information regarding sisterlocks and other happenings in London.

I had about 50 email contacts and had some good feedback following my first edition. So, armed with this new found talent, I embarked on my Newsletter in earnest. I have definately become a freelance, self-made journalist!!!

I am now on my 4th Edition and still going strong. I have changed the name to Hair Affairs - eNews from a Sister "Locked" in London.

I also now have nearly 200 contacts. It is taking up so much of my time, but I am enjoying it. If anyone out there would like to join my mailing list, please use the sign up box at the top of this post. There is no cost for this eMag.

Comparison Shots

2007-02-06T20:32:00.000Z

Sometimes it appears that your hair does not grow. However, just take a look!

Top picture is February 2007, bottom is February 2006!

My first client - December 2006

2007-01-11T22:07:00.000Z

On the 27th and 28th December 2006 I completed my first sisterlocked client.

Oh my gosh! It took me 16 and half hours over 2 days. It was hard work. I was really nervous the first day, but by day 2 I was working like a pro.

She had her consultation on 2nd December and we were ready for the 27th. She is a colleague of mines, so at least I knew her.

I put into practice all that I had learnt and was eager to get started. I worked well.

My client is very pleased with her hair and she tells me she is "working it" I am sooooo happy. Due to see her again at the end of this month. Check out the pics.

Two Year Lock Anniversary - November 2006

2007-01-11T22:00:00.000Z

I did not mark this date as I was busy getting ready for Miami. So just a few pics of me throughout 2006.

Back to London

2007-01-11T21:48:00.000Z

Before I knew it, training finished, all shopped out and heading back to Miami International Airport, back home to London. I was infact looking forward to getting home.

I checked in nice and early, but my case was overweight by about 6 kilo's. For an easy life, I just paid the excess, which was not too costly. I was tired and just wanted to get on that plane home.

The security check lines were as long in Miami as they were in London. I stood in line and did what I was told. Take your shoes off, take your belt off, any loose change, take your outside coats off etc etc.....

I don't know what it is about those metal detector machines, but I always set them off. And true to form, it went off.

Not once, not twice but about 4 times. After that I was called to one side. Maaam is your jewelry metal? No. Maaam, do you have hair pins in your hair? No. Ok step this way. Jeans fallling down, due to lack of belt, barefoot on the ground clutching passport, tickets and jacket! Hand metal detector buzzing all over me. There was nothing for it but a manual hand search, very humiliating! You're free to go now Maaam!

Once on that plane, my elderly co-passenger introduced himself and I snuggled down for the night flight home. Good-bye Miami!

Downtown Miami

2007-01-11T21:36:00.000Z

I was only due to stay in Miami for a week. I also tried to get a flight to the Cayman Islands where a good friend of mine is now living and working, however my time was so limited.

When the course finished I decided to get on with some shopping. I found out which bus to take and decided to spend the day at Aventura Mall. This was fun. However I find that shopping alone is quite difficult as you have nobody to ask those all important questions.

The bus journey was about 1 hour and I thought that I was going to get lost. However the last stop was right inside the mall. I told myself that I should be heading back before it got dark.

I shopped from about 11 am until 8 pm, I completely forgot that I wanted to leave in daylight. I arrived back at my motel around 9.30pm, grabbed some food and called it a night.

The motel owners were originally from North London, so we had something to chat about.

On my last day I decided to check out Miami Beach and the Art Deco District. However, got on the bus and got lost. Travelled about half hour beyond the beach. What was a girl to do. Get off that bus and eat lunch at Subway! I must say, chicken noodle soup in Miami is great!

Oh well did not get to see the beach as I had to get back to get to the airport. However, Victoria's Secret, Sephora and Bath and Bodyworks certainly made up for that!

Sisterlocks Training Miami

2007-01-11T21:29:00.000Z

I really enjoyed the days on the course and also the company. I was there to learn all I could about the technique. It was a lot to take in. Patterns, direction, partings! I was not sure I was going to be able to do this thing. What if I did it wrong.

One thing I did learn however, is that a lot of women are not given the correct information, many not even a consultation or starter packs. I too was one of those women. I also did not do my research prior to having my locks.

November 2006.........Lock Anniversary!

2007-01-11T21:10:00.000Z

The 4th and 5th of November was my 2 year lock anniversary. I did not celebrate this as I actually forgot on those days and I was also busy getting ready to fly to Miami, Florida to take the Sisterlocks Consultant Training. This was going to be an adventure!

I was travelling alone and staying alone in a "strange" country! It felt so empowering, that I was to do this for the first time in my life.

I was very excited and was looking forward to my journey. I planned and planned and planned. Found accommodation and was excited at meeting these wonderful sisterlocked sisters!

I left on Friday 10th November from Heathrow Aiport, London. I flew with Virgin Atlantic and I can really recommend them. The service was very good. I opted for a window seat and made myself comfortable. I introduced myself to my elderly neighbours and proceeded to fall asleep for most of the 9 hour 50 minute journey, which was delayed by about 30 mins.

On arrival in Miami, it struck me how flat it was. Nonetheless, I had arrived. I felt like kissing the ground, much in the same way the Pope does! Empowering! Once I had cleared customs and being made to feel like a criminal, I was well on my way. Oh, criminal, bwoy don't they grill you when you arrive in the states. "Where are you staying, Maaam", how long is your vacation, maaam! Eyeball photographs and fingerprints to boot!

After finding my baggage and way out, I jumped into a taxi and arrived at my motel, which was about 5 mins drive from the Marriott Miami, where the training was taking place.

I showed, got myself something to eat from Denny's, actually ate by myself, another achievement in my books!

The next morning, left at 8 am for 8.30 am start. Taxi to the Marriott. Found the room, then waited and waited and waited. Unfortunately, the sisterlocks trainers where running behind schedule and as two training sessions where taking place, most other delegated had gone to the other training room. So I sat there wondering why I was in Miami, so far from home and alone!

Then it all kicked off. There were 22 of us ladies on the training. About 5 who were not locked.

The day was long, the room was cold. I quite forgot that I was in a hot country! The A/C just was not getting it right.

One thing that did surprise me is that no lunch was provided. All that was provided on the first day was Starbucks coffee. If you did not drink coffee then tuff luck.

The training finished at 5.30 pm for the 4 days. The same friend whom I re-tightened in October, travelled to undertake the course. She travelled to Grenada, WI the week before and then met me in Miami. She was staying with family, so although we spent the days together, I found the evening a little lonely.

First Re-tightening...................October 2006

2007-01-11T21:02:00.000Z

The 5th of October 2006 marked my first retightening, having undertaken the course in September. I was unawre that you are only supposed to re-tighten your own hair having undertaken this course. However, a friend of mine asked me to do hers and I obliged!

It took me 7 hours, but both of us were pleased with the outcome.

The top picture is before and the others are after. I think I did a good job!

October 2006

2007-01-11T20:38:00.000Z

This month was a difficult month in many ways. Firstly it marked the first anniversary of my mothers passing on the 4th October 2005. I therefore wish to dedicate this post to my mum and share the Eulogy that I wrote for her funeral.

Eulogy

Lurlynn, Lull, Mum, Grandma, many names, one woman and what a woman!

Brought up in Diego Martin, Trinidad, only child, daughter of F. and M. Francis, and step-daughter to F. Charles.

Many of her growing years were spent in Maran, Grenada with her Grandmother, Miss Gayman and her cousins. These were happy times and she often recalled the firm but fair tactics "Mammy" employed to control all her grandchildren.

Mum left Trinidad and arrived at Southampton Docks in September 1964, aged 19 years. She was well suited, of course, in an outfit made specially for the occasion by her mother, with her only grip in one hand.

She came to England with a view to studying to become a nurse. She went on to complete her studies and became a State Registered Nurse. Mum often recalled, with a fondness, the times she spent with her co-students living in the Nursing Home, many of whom were from Thailand and other far eastern countries, as well as many islands of the Caribbean.

Whilst doing her nurse training, she fell in love with and married H. Together they had three children, H. Junior, M. and M.

Mum continued to work in various hospitals, including Rush Green and Oldchurch and eventually became a District Nurse, serving those in the community.

It was this position in the community that allowed her the flexibility to continue to care for her three children on her own, following the break up of her marriage.

Mum often had to burn the candle at both ends to ensure the financial security of her three children. Finishing her day job and running to catch the bus up the road to do night duty.

Anyone who knew Mum can comment on her enormous energy and vitality. They say that nursing is a vocation and not just a job and this certainly was true in her case. She touched the lives of so many of her patients and clients, who from her caring nature, have become her true friends.

Nothing was too much for anybody who may have needed her help, and we all know that Mum could shop for England. We practically grew up in Romford Market, where she always had to get that last bargain!

They say that the greatest hardship for a mother is to watch your children fall and allow them to make their own mistakes in life.

In the words of the famous poem Desiderata "....to go placidly amid the noise and haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence..."

We have all fallen and we have all made our mistakes!

Mum you equipped us for life by ensuring our understanding of one of the greatest teachings:

"....give a man a fish and he will eat for a day. Teach a man to fish and he will eat for a lifetime...." you of course taught us daily how to fish.

Mum was a Trini through and through, she had a great love for her people. The national flag of Trinidad stands for so much. The black represents the strength and dedication of the people as well as the wealth of the land. The red stands for the vitality and friendliness of the people as well as the warmth of the sun, while the thin white stripes the purity of aspirations and the equality of all men under the sun. I think you will all agree that Mum had all of these qualities.

Mum the way in which you lived your life is an inspiration to us all. The courage with which you have faced life's challenges is commendable. Even during her short illness she never complained. Even when the pain became unbearable, she took it in her stride. She often told us not to cry. She was a fighter to the end.

We as your children and grandchildren can only hope to measure up.

We would like to take this opportunity to thank all those who were involved in caring, visiting and praying for our mother over the last five months. In particular, Auntie Y, your unwavering support, care and dedication for our mother was second to none. Auntie C, your prayers, kind words and meals, helped us both spiritually and physically and Auntie P, thank you for the soup - Mum enjoyed all of them tremendously!

Mum we would like to thank you for all that you have given to us and all that you have sacrificed in doing so.

Sleep on beloved, sleep and take thy rest.

Happy New Year.........2007

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Hi everyone out there.

Yes I am back. Happy New Year and I hope that the Holidays found you all in good health.

However, as I have not updated in a while, I am going back to where I left off. Yes I am going back to October 2006.

Re-tightening class.......................

2006-09-18T14:04:00.000Z

On Sunday 17th I undertook the sisterlocks re-tightening class with Liz Joseph in Edmonton with 4 other ladies. Liz is featured in the most recent sisterlocks journal with Carole and Marie.

The training was well organised and well enjoyed. It is quite a simple procedure once you get the hang of the tool. My index finger is very sore as you have to push down part of the tool to expose the hook. However, I am very excited and feel a sense of total freedom being able to finally control when I re-tighten my hair. I guess it will take the best part of a week to complete my whole head.

I am still debating whether or not to travel to the States to do the consultants class.

Links........................

2006-09-14T12:38:00.000Z

The Pampering Club link - www.pamperingclub.co.uk

Sol Andelusi - Malaga - http://www.solandalusi.com/site/facilities/facilities_health_beauty.html

The Write Thing - event organisers - http://www.thewritething.com/

Compass Yoga - http://www.compassyoga.com/

Pampering Club product range.......

2006-09-13T22:32:00.000Z

This is at another women's event in March. This is the Pampering Club stall and their range of products. There is lavender bath salts and body cream, citrus bath salts and cream, white ginger foaming body scrub and cream and sweet orange hand cream. For the feet there is peppermint and lime scrub and cream.

All very nice.

Hair.........................

2006-09-13T22:16:00.000Z

Just hair over the last few months.

In Celebration of My Sisters

2006-09-13T21:53:00.000Z

I do voluntary work for an organisation called the Write Thing. They are events organisers here in the UK. March is International womens month and there is usually performances in and around the UK. I met up with Iyanla Vanzant when she visited the UK back in March.

She performed at the Hackney Empire for two nights, an excellent show. I worked both nights. Selling her books on the Friday and working for the Pampering Club on the Saturday. I was able to meet Iyanla in the Green Room after the show and at the after party on Saturday.

The Pampering Club launched their product range which includes, bath salts, body creams and scrubs. I am now a fully fledged Pampering Club consultant. It is my own business as I have bought a franchise. The aim is to hold Pampering Gatherings in your home. I am hoping to launch my business in October, with my very first gathering. I was also hoping to incorporate the sisterlocks consultancy, however, the training was cancelled.

Malaga, Spain...................

2006-09-13T21:52:00.000Z

Here I am giving my acceptance speech.

Sol Andelusi - Malaga

2006-09-13T21:33:00.000Z

Had a great time in Malaga. The wellness circuit was amazing. An hour long circuit of different types of pools, saunas, showers and steam rooms.

We did yoga in the evening before dinner and also some Pampering club exercises - collages and "love letters to self". On our last day we were all presented with awards and had to give acceptance speeches. I got the "Oprah Winfrey - life your best life award" for my personal development over the years. It was quite an emotional time.

The Missing Months............

2006-09-13T21:08:00.000Z

Well as I mentioned some posts back. I am working backwards and forwards on this blog. Nearly back to where I left off in February 2006. So much seems to have happended since then, but here goes.

Back in April 2006, I travelled to Malaga, Spain, with the Pampering Club. I am a member of the Pampering Club, which is the UK's leading empowerment group for women. It was originally aimed at women of colour, however, now in it's 7th year, it is open to all women.

I have been a member for the last 4 years. I happened across the club following the break up of my marriage. I was looking for something and came across the club. I attended my first meeting and was overwhelmed by the number of inspirational black women. I immediately joined and every woman I came in contact with had to know about this wonderful club.

The club was founded by two women who had both read the book, Sacred Pampering Principals of African American Women, by Debrena Jackson-Gandy. Both of them contacted the author, who put them in touch with each other and the Pampering Club was born. I have gotten so much out of the club, I have attended relationship workshops and have been to a number of spas and events.

Malaga was the first overseas trip I had made with the club. One of our members had a dream to live in Spain and provide yoga holidays. That was 2 years ago. This year she realised her dream. I had the most amazing time, relaxation, good company, spa and yoga! It was only 4 days, but worth every penny.

Sparty time!

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Group shot. Some of us had facials including the mud packs. I opted for a relaxing pedicure and lots of champagne. Even my 6 year old enjoyed the parafin wax pedi's. I think he was facinated by the wax.

Happy 40th Birthday - Sparty!

2006-09-13T21:01:00.000Z

Here I am with my cousin, Vix, enjoying a glass of champagne cocktail!

Happy 40th Birthday to me!

2006-09-13T20:42:00.000Z

Last week on the 5th September I celebrated my 40th Birthday. Here I am at home with a few friends. The celebrations went on until 3 am. Not sure how I managed to get to work the next day, but I got through. Anyhow, you are only 40 once.

On the Saturday before my birthday I had a girlie "Sparty" at home. The dress code was tiaras, feather boas and animal print! We had foot spas, facials, manicures and pedicures. We played pass the parcel and a beauty trivia quiz. Everyone enjoyed themselves and again a very late night was had by all.

I was planning to get to a spa for the weekend before my birthday. But as it was a bank holiday here, the spa was totally booked up. I should have been ahead of the game. Two years ago was planning to be in Bali for my 40th (the spa capital of the world) however, following the tsunami and events, decided against it. Also my mum got ill and passed, so my plans were put on hold.

I eventually decided to do a small scale event, hence the Sparty! I was also due to undertake the sisterlocks training in London 9th - 12th September, paid my deposit. However, a week before then, the course was cancelled, due to lack of interest! I am soooo disappointed. I am however, going to do the retightening class this Sunday.

Oldest and Youngest

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My father, Jalen's great grandfather. What a picture! My mum would have been so proud of him.

Baby Jalen

2006-09-13T20:08:00.000Z

Here is my little darling. Three months old.

I'm Back again!

2006-09-13T19:54:00.000Z

I am not sure what happens to the time, but it just seems to get eaten up with stuff. Being a single mum and working full time does not help I guess.

Anyhow, lots been going on. But first I think I should share this news as it is now old news but great news.

On the 24th may 2006 I became a grandmother. Little JJ safely came into this world following a 28 hour labour. He weighed in at 7lbs 6oz. I must say after the year that I have had, loosing mum, it was a joy and a great pleasure to witness the next generation being born. Having only experienced c-sections myself, it was an amazing feeling watching my only daughter give birth. Every emotion comes into play. She did so well. No pain relief and no tears or stitches.

JJ is growing so fast and is such a pleasure. My 6 year old is over the moon to be an uncle. I was not sure how being a grandmother would be, however, now that he is here it is the most wonderful thing after having your own children. In fact I would say it is better. You can have all the pleasure without the pain! so to speak.

Chaguaramas Bay...........Trinidad

2006-08-01T22:01:00.000Z

On our last day in Trinidad, a friend of my mother took us on a boat trip to Chaguaramas Bay. It was nice to have some tranquility! I want to buy that pink house.....!

Downtown Port of Spain........

2006-08-01T21:58:00.000Z

One thing I did notice about Trinidad was all the natural hair wearers, especially locks. No sister locks however, although there is someone listed on the website in Trinidad, her number was unavailable when I called. A sister was in need of a re-tightening!

However, due to the high crime rate and also the reluctance of people wishing to have their photos taken, I was unable to get any pics. I was too scared to take out my camcorder!

Also the "Soca Warriors" had their welcome home whilst we were in Tobago. Everywhere in Trinidad were banners of the soca warriors, on goverment buildings on cars, everywhere. Tee-shirts for sale on every corner down town.

Family, Friends and Fun in Trinidad

2006-08-01T21:32:00.000Z

Our days were spent in "town" and our evenings were spent drinking rum, eating roti and liming on the porch! Catching up with mum's friends and reminicing over the good times. It was a whirlwind trip to Trinidad, but I can look back fondly on the time we spent there, with friends old and new.

After 6 days of rushing around, the time finally arrived to venture back to the calm of Tobago. This time, however, we decided to fly!

Well "who tell me to do that?......." Was all our travelling doomed for disaster?

I booked the flights on Tobago Express which flies between Piarco Airport in Trinidad to Crown Point Airport in Tobago, every hour.

I made the reservations for 5 as my brother who arrived in Trinidad whilst we were there wished to see Tobago.

Reservations made for 11.30 am flight. Check in time 10.30am - no problem or so I thought. We arrived at the airport at around 10.40am, and due to the long queue, by the time we got to the desk, low and behold our reservations had been given away as "standby" tickets. Well you can imagine. I was fuming. The next available flight that 5 of us could be accommodated on was the 2.30 pm. We had no choice but to wait in the airport until the 1.30pm check-in. This time I made sure I was first in line, only to be told that they were still checking in the 2.00pm flight. I stood my ground and remaining in line. I was then first for 2.30pm check in.

We then proceded to bagage clearance as you do not need to go through customs inter island. 2.30pm came and went. Then came the announcement that the flight was still in Tobago and would be delayed due to bad weather. Yes it is rainy season and yes it was raining!

We finally boarded the plane and arrived in Tobago 15 mins later at around 3.30pm. Hugh our taxi driver was patiently awaiting our return.

Culture Shock Shower...........

2006-08-01T21:23:00.000Z

These are the pics of the antiquated showering facilities. I am sure back in their day they were very state of art! No disrespect grandmum, but we had to shower very carefully! I can't seem to keep these posts in order. Having lots of problems uploading the pics and when I do through Picasa they seem to go wherever they like! Although I do think I am getting a little better! Bear with me, I am sure you all can manage to follow the story script somehow!

Skerretts Villa Mt Irvine Tobago

2006-08-01T21:10:00.000Z

The villa is situated at Mt Irvine Bay, in a nice quiet residential turning. Three minutes walk from Mt Irvine Bay beach.

After peeking at the villa, we walked to the beach and had lunch at the Surfers Restaurant and Bar. Again we dined on fish, but king fish with rice, macaroni pie, callaloo and salad. This time the cost was $50 TT per person which equates to £5.00! that's more like it!
We spent some time at the bay and then returned back to the hotel in the early evening.

Tonigt we were going to eat Chinese. Showered, changed and took a walk to the local chinese restaurant. The food was well presented and tasted nice and above all it came in at around $130 TT about £13.00 in total, including drinks! It's funny how when you are on holiday, you always compare what you would pay at home. It is one thing getting used to the new currency and quite another working out the exchange rates!

Mt Irvine Bay with the Sufers Restaurant in the background.

Home from Home!

2006-08-01T21:05:00.000Z

Day Three. We made ourselves comfortable at Skerretts Villa. We were only due to spend one night as we had to go over to Trinidad on a business trip.
My aunt has a cleaner, Pinky, whose partner Hugh has a taxi service. Hugh was invaluable and was at our beck and call.

Hugh advised us to travel to Trinidad via the Lynx which is a Catamaran type ferry, which sails twice a day between Tobago and Trinidad. As I have only flown before I decided it would be a good experience to try the Lynx. It certainly was an experience. Hugh advised us to purchase our tickets "downtown" the evening before and that we should take the 6.30am sailing to make the best of our time. You have to purchase your ticket at the Port Authority. So we lined up outside as the Port Authority closes between 2pm and 4pm. It was about 4.30 pm before they re-opened to a rush of irate Tobagonians!. Children were getting squashed and they had no regard for the elderly or infirm! Once at the desk, you have to give the names of all passengers travelling etc. My fist attempt was disaster, the teller did not get it right and I had to go back and change the names again. That over, we returned home to pack a suitcase and prepare for our 4 days in Trinidad.

Hugh arrived at 4.45am as promised and we were whisked off to the Port for our 6.30 am sailing.
A pic of the Lynx. I did feel like I was boarding the "Windrush" like my foremothers. Passengers have to walk up the gangplank and the Port is very commercial. One inside it was quite pleasant. However, the 2 and a half hours sailing was delayed by about 30 minutes due to the boat not having any water on board!

Trinidad..................

2006-08-01T20:36:00.000Z

Trinidad was certainly an experience, especially "downtown" Port of Spain! Imagine your worst shopping experience and multiply it by 5! Also add the "sun" and "humidity" factors!

The boys enjoyed travelling in the "maxi taxis" , with their loud music playing and decorative interiors.

You can certainly learn alot from other cultures and countries and travelling is definately an education. Not having to deal with attourney's before in this capacity was an education in itself! You make an appointment and you still have to wait at least 3 hours to be seen! Bwoy this business trip was going to take it out of us.

Although it was different, we managed to get through.

Some aspects of "town" were enjoyable, especially the home cooked foods. I really enjoyed "doubles" although the boys had some reservations, especially my 6 year old. And a few glasses of mauby went down a treat!

Trinidad here we come

2006-08-01T19:36:00.000Z

Trinidad here we come! Arrived in Port of Spain Port. Again another commercial port, downtown. After a long wait for family friends to meet us, we finally arrived at my grandmother's house in the Petit Valley, Crystal Stream, Diego Martin.

It has been 14 years since I last visited this house, when my grandmother passed and the reason I revisited it this time was to clear up business after my mother tragically passed, which was last October. The house was built in the 1950's and my brother and I spent two years as children living in this very house with my grandmother. It was quite and emotional trip, but business has to be sorted. The house is old and in need of modernisation.

My boys had a bit of a culture shock, it was not like home nor Tobago. There was no air conditioning here and Trinidad is more humid than Tobago! The crickets sing very loudly every night and the windows are louvre type so did not offer much sound proofing! There was only cold running water and I think my 16 year old thought I was putting him through a torture chamber. The showering facilities are very antiquated! I guess the electrical connections were to heat the water via the element as it passes through. However, every time you took a shower, you had to be careful not to touch anything metal, otherwise you would get a small electric shock!

I don't think my 16 year old will return here too quickly!

The house is situated near a busy highway, which clearly will expand as the years go by. However, it is in a prime location.

Enchanted Waters Tobago

2006-08-01T17:52:00.000Z

Following breakfast and a quick dip in the pool. We all headed out for a walk. This is my 6 year old having a dip.

My Aunt, who lives in Minnesota and her family have a villa in Mount Irvine Bay, which was occupied on our arrival, however we were due to get the keys on day three and move in. As we were staying down the road from the villa we took a walk to have a peek! It was about a half hour walk in soaring temperatures, but not complaining as I was comforted by the weather we left behind in London!

The walk took us past the famous Mt Irvine Bay Golf Club and Hotel. Harrison Ford has his Tobago home not far from here.

I don't think the current tenants spotted us. Infact it did not look like anyone was home.

I'm Back!

2006-07-31T17:36:00.000Z

Hi locked sisters, I'm back. Apologies for the absence, but have been very busy recently. I still managed to read all of the hair blogs, or at least lots of them. I am going to now update my blog in reverse order, as I have a lot of news.

On the 24th June 2006 my family and I travelled to Tobago with my 16 year old son and my 6 year old son. We left home at 4.30 am to catch the Gatwick Flyer, which is a door to door coach service, which unfortunatley does not pick up in my area in London. We had to travel to my aunt's house, just on the outskirts of London to enable us to be picked up. We arrived at Gatwick around 6.30 am, our flight was scheduled for 10.30 am.

Once the British Airways desk was open for check in we checked in our luggage and proceeded to search for something to eat. We opted for a McDonald's breakfast and wish we hadn't! Not recommended at Gatwick airport!

We boarded our flight, but were slightly delayed as they had technical problems. Once sorted and following the safety procedures we were on our way.

It was my first time flying with BA and the service was pretty ok. The food was not too bad either! Good films and lots of drinks. No rum punch though!

We had a one hour stop in Antigua.
However, we were unable to leave the plane whilst passengers disembarked and boarded.

Our one hour stop turned into a two hour stop. This was due to a fellow passenger, a locked brother, getting very agitated with the long wait and becoming a security threat! He was taken off the plane in Antigua to be transfered to another flight going to Tobago. We arrived at Crown Point Airport, Tobago a little behind schedule. The flight from Antigua was about 1 hour.

We travelled by taxi to our hotel, Enchanted Waters in Buccoo. A nice family run hotel. The rooms were comfortable and due to it being low season, the hotel fairly empty. They also had a pool.

That evening at the hotel, we dined on shrimp bisque, which was over salty. I had mahi mahi with garlic sauce and a side dish of rice and broccli with cheese sauce, which comes highly recommended. The boys had chicken and chips.

We had rum punch, mineral water, coke and juice and it all came in at $650 TT! a little expensive we thought.

A comfortable first night was spent in the rooms which were air conditioned.

2006-03-09T21:40:00.000Z

My dear friend Doran, who escorted me and my friends to the party.

2006-03-09T21:36:00.000Z

Another pose!

2006-03-09T21:27:00.000Z

This is the back of the style. Chi is very talented and I loved this and I had lots of comments for during the evening and the following week at work.
Another pose.

Paulette, Sandra and Me
This is me and my childhood sweetheart, Barry, who celebrated his 40th on 24th February 2006.

2006-03-09T21:21:00.000Z

This is me at home just before going out. Note the hair, done by Chi my hairdresser, or rather loctician! I loved this style, he is great and did a wonderful job!

2006-03-05T09:30:00.000Z

Here are some pictures of my dinner party -"an evening of love.........." 18th February 2006

Below is Mandy and Nighat enjoying the fondue!

The main course - baked salmon and pesto mash!

This is the red berry roulade. It is made with egg whites and cream, however, I did not make it, a colleagues mother did.

Nadine and Rhian enjoying the food and drink

2006-03-05T00:11:00.000Z

Hi, I'm back with lots of new pics. I had a dinner party entitled "An Evening of Love........." on the 18th February to mark Valentines Day for the ladies!

We dined on Oriental Firepot, a savoury fondue, which consisted of prawns, scallops, snow peas and noodles. These were dipped and cooked in the fondue, which had a soup base, with lemon grass, ginger, soy sauce etc... I also made an oriental dip with prawn crackers. The main course was baked salmon with olives and pesto mashed potatoes, with a rollo losso salad. The dessert was a red berry roulade, made with egg whites and cream, with strawberries, raspberries and blueberries.

I produced a booklet for each guest, and the topic for conversation was "how can we as women bring more love into our lives.?"

The booklet contained articles on the chakras, particularly the heart chakra, rose quartz, which is the quartz of love, self love, and rituals! Pampering rituals and alter work.

Each guest had to bring something with them which represented "love" to them. One friend brought a CD, another her photo album, another a book on love by the Dali Lama. I read a story from a book called, "Journey to a blissful life" by Maria D Dowd.

I have typed it out as I love this story:

It is called "Love Affair" by Kimberly T Mathhews

"May I share a secret with you? I'm only telling you because you seem trustworthy enough. I am involved in a very deep and serious love affair. This affair started so subtly, as most of them do. The "relationship", if you will, crept up on me without my even noticing or purposing in my heart to be committed to such a thing. I didn't mean to become so fiercely and passionately entangled, and now that I've turned my head to look back over my shoulder at the path that this relationship has traveled, I'm fascinated that I've been involved for more than eight years! Eight years! My, how one day rolls into the next!

As with any relationship, I've experienced the typical ups and downs, but I've embraced and endured every storm, no matter how upsetting. There have been mornings when I've awakened and asked myself what was going on. Nevertheless, as I pondered the journey, I knew I wouldn't end it. There have been evenings when I just didn't feel like dealing with the drama of this union any longer, yet I pressed on. And what would any union be if there weren't a few nights going to bed angry and teary-eyed, not knowing if the bond would last beyond the wee hours of the morning? Then, of course, there is always a make up period that overpowers any dispute to the point where I can't even remember what the conflict was about in the first place.

As tempted as I have sometimes been to end it all, I just refuse to let it go. Just when I've thought that I couldn't take it anymore, something happens to make me smile, laugh and feel simply wonderful about this love I'm experiencing. Something always draws me back, calming my emotions from the greatest peak of frustration, and settles in the center of my heart. Even when I want to stay upset, I find that I can't. Rather than my saying, "It's over," the words "I love you" tumble across my lips. Rather than packing up and throwing out every single item that brings the slightest notion of this union to my mind, before I build up enough nerve and true sincerity to do so, I find myself coaxing on this intimacy.

A few friends have offered their personal opinions about this whole thing, giving me thoughtless recommendations, suggesting what they would do, and even going as far as to communicate what their individual visions are for me! What a nerve! They say things like, "Chile, you good, because if it was me, then this and that!" I listen sometimes.....just to humor them; sometimes I don't. Some are even silly enough to think that I'm trapped in this thing. "You ain't go to do that," they say. They think that I believe that there are no other options out there for me. Oh, how wrong they are. On the contrary, this is an affair of my choosing! I don't express this to them, but on the inside I stand up defiantly and say, "I'm grown. I can have an affair if I want to." forgive me if I seem defensive, but this is true love, y'all. They don't understand, but that's okay, because this love is all about me. It's who I am, what I want, and what I like. So talk about me all you want; I'm keeping on anyway.

As Usher would say, I got it bad. And I'm lovin' every minute of this affair....with my natural hair!

It was a fabulous evening, lots of discussion and laughs.
Thanks to my friends, Mandy, Nighat, Nadine and Rhianedd.

2006-01-31T21:20:00.000Z

This is my daughter, Jozan on her 18th birthday!

Checking out the colour of the dye!!

Hi all, feeling much better and back to work today! Thought I would post some photos.

Thank you all for your nice welcome comments and get well wishes. I had my hair retightened yesterday and feeling good. I note that you ladies retighten your hair very regularly. I see my consultant every eight weeks for retightening, and have occasionally had my hair styled by Chi, loctician, who also dyed my locks.

I have uploaded some pictures at various stages of my sisterlock journey. They were all taken at the end of last year. I have also added a picture of my daughter on her 18th birthday, for those of you who do not believe I have an 18 year old (LOL). She is soon to become a mum in May and me a grandma! I am still getting used to the idea!

2006-01-26T19:25:00.000Z

Hi all

Have not gotten round to posting any new pics, but will do as soon as I am feeling better. Have been off work for this week with "pericarditis" sounds bad, but it is inflamation of the lining of my heart! I have to take anti-inflamatary tablets for 1 week and get some bed rest. Likely reason, is stress and after effects of my flu.

My daughter celebrated her 18th birthday yesterday, which was fun. Catch you all soon.

2006-01-20T13:00:00.000Z

Happy New Year!

Happy New Year to everyone. I have been an avid reader of the hair blogs for such a long time now. Finally I am about to get started on one of my own. You American girls really have it going on. Hope to join in the family spirit you all have!

Had my locks dyed on 28th December 2005, by Chi. I have three colours and it looks wonderful. He done a really great job. I have had my sisterlocks since 4/5th November 2004. It was the best decision I have made with regards to my hair. I was natural for 2 years prior to getting my locks.

I have today received my spikey curlers and I am looking forward to trying them out this evening. I have read a lot about them on the blogs. I hope that they work as well as some people have documented. I will post more pictures soon.

Christmas Morning

2005-12-25T11:37:00.000Z

I have today become a blogger. I have opened my account and will attempt to upload some phootos.